This is something that is so true. However it also goes for you in your personal life.
Are you one of those people like so many out there that wake up every morning and do the things? the things that are for everyone else and not for you? Do you hype up your friends telling them "no no your gorgeous!" "you got this!" and other things like "he was a dick and you deserve so much better!"
Are you working and doing things for your job and doing things for other people all the time. Feeding the kids, taking care of the house chores and just being on the go for everyone else. When was the last time you sat down and worried about you and your personal mental health and your personal outlook on your self. How many times in the last week have you looked in the mirror and picked out your flaws?
This small sentence "you get what you give" really sums up how a person will feel about themselves and their self-esteem. Let's take a moment and look at how self-esteem is defined "Self esteem is how you value yourself and your abilities, regardless of how anyone else values you or your abilities." (What Is Self Esteem & Why Is Self Esteem Important? (alwaysgreater.com)) So no matter what other people say about you, or how they hype you up, it will not change your perception in the long run of yourself. It may put a bandage on it but not really address the issue. To address the issue one must identify why they feel the way they feel about themselves, how they can build the positive feelings for themselves, and what habits will help them maintain positive self-esteem in the long run.
A higher self-esteem means you feel better about yourself, your accomplishments and your future in general.
Here we are going to explore 5 ways to help boost your self- esteem. Because you get what you give. You put in the work and the effort into strengthening your self-esteem and you will reap the benefits.
1. Practice Self-Acceptance
Begin to acknowledge that it is ok to be unique, and different than others. Take a moment and realize that it is ok to make mistakes and that this is normal, this does not make you unworthy. Mistakes are a way for us to experience and learn. Write a list of the things that you do well, and the things that you do like about yourself and every time you have something new to add to it, do so!
2. Use Positive Self-Talk/Empowering Statements
Poor self-esteem can be caused by constant self-criticism and negative thought patterns. These patterns are very easy to fall into and be assured you are not alone in this.
We all make mistakes and they are part of the learning process. We need to use these experiences to learn and grow from. This will help you to become the person you want to be.
Take a moment to look in the mirror every morning and practice some affirmations about you and your character.
If you would like some examples of positive self-talk check out 100 Positive Self Talk Examples To Adopt Now - You Are Beyond Enough
3. Set Goals
Setting and achieving your goals reminds you of your worth and skills.
Start by setting an achievable goal. Something that you are not currently doing but that would be achievable if you put your mind to it. And then begin the journey to meet that goal. Work towards it a small amount every day.
4. Choose Your Company Wisely
Have you ever been caught in a loop with negative people? Every time you talk to them they complain about everything from their life to the color of the sky.
This is very taxing for most individuals, these people also have a tendency to complain about you and your behavior and guess what that can lead to a decrease in your self-esteem as you begin to second guess yourself and feel guilty perhaps over what they are saying you did or didn't do.
Limiting your time with these people can be a great way to start your journey to self-esteem.
A few minutes of working out can make you feel better about yourself and enhance your mood. Therefore, it is advisable that you take a walk at the beach, or hit the gym every once in a while.
6. Listen to Music/Express Your Self Artistically/Read
Music is good for the soul and can lift a persons spirits dramatically. If you are artistic expressing your self will also help you to get the feels out and work through them. Reading is a great pass time and many people enjoy reading self-help books and other literature that helps them reach to achieve their goals.
7. Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we're doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what's going on around us.
The goal of mindfulness is to wake up to the inner workings of our mental, emotional, and physical processes.
Mindfulness is available to us in every moment, whether through meditations and body scans, or mindful moment practices like taking time to pause and breathe when the phone rings instead of rushing to answer it. (mindful.org)
In turn practicing mindfulness for a few minutes every day can help you boost your self-esteem.
It does this by helping you identify and deal with negative emotions and negative thought patterns that may be contributing to low self-esteem.
It is so important to work on our self-esteem every day. It helps to fortify us against the negativity in the world. Self-esteem is so important in our lives so that when we make a mistake or fail at something we are able to keep going and try again.
Self-esteem will help you not only with feeling good about yourself but also will translate in creating positive relationships with others.
You get what you give is so true when it comes to self-esteem. You need to make the time to put the work into yourself, and you will get amazing positive benefits.